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My challenge this year

Posted in OTM by justaroundme on February 13, 2012

I have come to ask for a giant favor. I am participating in the “Off the mat into the world- Seva Challenge” for the year 2012. The Global Seva Challenge 2012 aims to raise awareness of the root causes and impact of the global sex trafficking industry, support organizations in India that are providing refuge, rehabilitation and economic opportunities to survivors, and empower survivors to lead lives with dignity and respect.

I know all my readers and the blogs that I read are all in support of anti-trafficking and are passionate about women empowerment. So readers, please show your support:

  1. As you all know this blog does not have a big crowd and so I request every single reader of this blog share the information in your blog and spread the word.
  2. Share this with your friends or family members who would resonate with the cause.
  3. Any fundraising ideas, suggestions, I am open for any kind of support. If you have some extra time, would you like to pitch in ? please let me know.
  4. If you know anybody, who works firsthand with the victims and if they are willing to share their experience, please let me know.

Lastest news , Sunitha  Krishnan is made to retreat, and I strongly feel that it is high time we all unite in some way to give the victims and the children their life back and show our strongest support to many organizations  that are fighting the hard long battle to erase the sin of trafficking  from the face of earth.

I very much see this as my chance to be part of a relay race for supporting the trafficked victims; I will run as hard as I can, and you are all my cheer leaders.

Please hop on to read about my challenge and let me know what you think. Love to hear your comments and yea you will know my name.

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A path with heart *

Posted in Personal by justaroundme on January 17, 2012

Hope you all have settled into the routine of 2012. Honestly  as I age,  every year seems just as another year, sounds cheerless? hmm…I get conflicted by the dualities in life (or that is life?), to me it gets SO unbearable and confusing – all cheering and happy one day, then in deep slump the next day, people saying that you are successful if you play along with their rules, else a loser if you tune your own music, a person blessed with wealth is unhappy, but a person who has very little can simply brighten your day with his/her smile, many such.

I am not able to shut my eyes to these conflicts and that gives only agitation. The inner agitation is not dying down by itself.When we search answers for our fears, conflicts, anger, we are laid with lot of paths to choose from, to start our journey in consciousness.

Some paths based on old belief  system and some the new age ones.Choosing the right path becomes an arduous task, which path is the right path, where is the destination, how does it look like and no path give a detailed map to the destination. Do we have to define our milestones or simply sink in the very moment?.

Whichever be the path we choose, it has to be the path with heart.A path towards awareness with an openness to change, acceptance and love. Hope you all find your path this year and may your consciousness shine bright and give light.

* – Title inspired by Jack Kornfield’s “A path with heart”.

I am not going to title it: 1

Posted in Experience, Lovely Words by justaroundme on December 8, 2011

My blog looks like a new sheet of paper – blank.
So, I came across this beautiful video and wonderful words, what’s better there to do, other than sharing it with you all.How do you like to be alone, sometime, just you.Doing things alone, you being your company and living with your thoughts.Have you experienced it.Do you get ruffled up or do you sit at ease by just BEING there…

If you are at first lonely, be patient. If you’ve not been alone much, or if when you were, you weren’t okay with it, then just wait. You’ll find it’s fine to be alone once you’re embracing it.
We could start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library. Where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books. You’re not supposed to talk much anyway so it’s safe there.
There’s also the gym. If you’re shy you could hang out with yourself in mirrors, you could put headphones in (guitar stroke).
And there’s public transportation, because we all gotta go places.
And there’s prayer and meditation. No one will think less if you’re hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation.
Start simple. Things you may have previously (electric guitar plucking) based on your avoid being alone principals.
The lunch counter. Where you will be surrounded by chow-downers. Employees who only have an hour and their spouses work across town and so they — like you — will be alone.
Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.
When you are comfortable with eat lunch and run, take yourself out for dinner. A restaurant with linen and silverware. You’re no less intriguing a person when you’re eating solo dessert to cleaning the whipped cream from the dish with your finger. In fact some people at full tables will wish they were where you were.
Go to the movies. Where it is dark and soothing. Alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community.
And then, take yourself out dancing to a club where no one knows you. Stand on the outside of the floor till the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no one’s watching…because, they’re probably not. And, if they are, assume it is with best of human intentions. The way bodies move genuinely to beats is, after all, gorgeous and affecting. Dance until you’re sweating, and beads of perspiration remind you of life’s best things, down your back like a brook of blessings.
Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you.
Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, they’re always statues to talk to and benches made for sitting give strangers a shared existence if only for a minute and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversations you get in by sitting alone on benches might’ve never happened had you not been there by yourself
Society is afraid of alonedom, like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements, like people must have problems if, after a while, nobody is dating them. but lonely is a freedom that breaths easy and weightless and lonely is healing if you make it.
You could stand, swathed by groups and mobs or hold hands with your partner, look both further and farther for the endless quest for company. But no one’s in your head and by the time you translate your thoughts, some essence of them may be lost or perhaps it is just kept.
Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps all those sappy slogans from preschool over to high school’s groaning were tokens for holding the lonely at bay. Cuz if you’re happy in your head than solitude is blessed and alone is okay.
It’s okay if no one believes like you. All experience is unique, no one has the same synapses, can’t think like you, for this be relieved, keeps things interesting life’s magic things in reach.
And it doesn’t mean you’re not connected, that community’s not present, just take the perspective you get from being one person in one head and feel the effects of it. take silence and respect it. if you have an art that needs a practice, stop neglecting it. if your family doesn’t get you, or religious sect is not meant for you, don’t obsess about it.
you could be in an instant surrounded if you needed it
If your heart is bleeding make the best of it
There is heat in freezing, be a testament.

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Welcome and Entertain them all – By Rumi

Posted in Lovely Words by justaroundme on May 25, 2011

I don’t know how many times I read these lines and don’t know how many times I will …
Hey, its my “Wordful Wednesday”…

This Human Being is a Guest House.
Every morning is a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness
comes as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

— Rumi

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After all…

Posted in Personal by justaroundme on May 23, 2011

A typical Monday at work, don’t know what to do.Honestly, am not interested in anything.I am bored and restless because of the rut life I am into. To me, not knowing what to do at work is far more discomforting than not knowing what to do in LIFE.

A “regular” (dull) Monday is far more excruciating than any other days; the reason being, the high amount of drama that goes in reaching office on a Monday morning after being languid for whole 48 hours.I start my sulking by late Sunday evening and get depressed for staying inside the building behind a desk for 8 long hours the next day.After snoozing the alarm for about 17 times, finally getting time to shower, for breakfast, then cursing the traffic and reaching the desk on time; you see the general “rush” feeling on a Monday is something I abhor.

I start the day by browsing the news, scan my work and personal emails in all different accounts with drowsy eyes and by 9.00 am I get restless because there is nothing “exciting”.I like to attend only to urgent things on a Monday morning.Anything that is not on a fire can wait, at least there should be some pressing need to deserve the Monday drama…

My stomach would show that its ready for lunch by making rumbling noises around 10.30 am.But I cannot go its still breakfast time, people would still be standing in line to get their morning muffins !!.So to kill my time, I try to remember every little details of my weekend and wonder how exciting it was, yet by doing nothing and day-dream about me becoming one chirpy woman who make my life by following my “passion”…and then the inevitable question that my sane mind never fails to ask, “what is your passion ?”….

Then once again I would become the victim of my urge to check for any personal email, which can pop up any moment is my justification.So I check my emails one more time with the hope of reading an email from an old friend, but as expected only junk and bill remainders.Then I would go to the newly discovered complete narcissistic land called “Facebook”, at least there everybody has something exciting to say like “I like Deepika Padukone” and you can to see the “happening life” of your friends in pictures.The moment self-pity crawls in, I would log off and go for an early lunch by 11.15 am.

By late afternoon, am very much in terms with Monday and my life – oh, that same sane mind (again !!) would do its trick by reminding me the national unemployment average and how I should be grateful to have this job.I get life-changing questions  on a Monday like  “Am I going to be behind this desk for all my life ? “, “is this my true calling ?”, “am I passionate about what I am doing ?”; I postpone to find answers to those questions the next Monday.

Whenever I ask “How are you”  to my colleague on a Monday, who is close to his retirement always says “After all its Monday”.Now I get it .

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Dandi March II

Posted in Society by justaroundme on March 24, 2011

No computers, no internet, no facebook and no twitter – without these high-tech means, how do you bring together an entire nation to march towards a change?.What the social activists did during the Indian freedom struggle to unite the entire country seems as an implausible task in this present day and age. But they believed, they fought and they won and we breathe freedom. Today, we are marching – but not against a foreigner but to fix the dire state of our corrupted political system.

Any law abiding citizen of India living to his/her due diligence would weep silently by seeing this list and is growing consistently. Be it the right to education for women to the recent RTI and RTE nothing was granted without a fight by the social/political activists. I feel that the activists are the pure catalysts in a society.They shout, scream, get beaten up;yet, they remain strong in their vision.All the struggle they take is for benefit of the entire nation.But I feel that all their struggle is taken for granted by many who do not even vote and be indifferent about the current state we are in. I get deeply hurt by the “Ram rules or Ravaan rules, it does not matter to me” attitude,especially if it is among the most educated people.

Have you heard about “Anna Hazare”, living Mahatma Gandhi. He is marching against corruption and also he has promised to fast unto death if the Prime Minister is not passing a stringent bill on Anti-Corruption.He is a simple man with no Swiss bank accounts. He lives in a temple.

Dandi March 2 is happening in a global level on March 26 2011. Please pass on the word around and support Anna and his team. We being part of the blog-sphere can write about it,tweet, display the banners in our facebook profiles and we can think about to spread this in all creative ways.

Please share your thoughts and let us play our small part of the big change.

Staying warm…

Posted in Music by justaroundme on February 2, 2011

When ice rain is pouring outside what are the options to stay warm and cozy – hot chocolate, hot chai,spicy pepper rasam ? what works for you..? whatever it is,I am sure music would be in the background.Allowing a pauper to enter a palace,I get the same feeling as the pauper would and I blast in joy when I hear a Carnatic singer singing a movie song but still retaining the authentic nature of their voice, for me it is like the singer coming down from their high level of music knowledge and allowing a layman inside their world to explore and revel.

Enna Kuraiyo” song from the movie Mandhira Punnagai is in loops for the past few weeks.Lovely lyrics and the deep voice of Sudha Ragunathan singing …

“Ner kodu vattam aagalam
Nizhal kooda vittu pogalaam
Thaalatha thunbam Nergayil
Thaayaga Kannan maaruvan”

– these words soothes the muddled mind and I feel like screaming "all is well"…

Another song – by Sowmya ,quite mesmerizing.Her voice gets into like a silent stream backed with very good music.

2010 ,the year …

Posted in Personal by justaroundme on December 29, 2010

In 2 more days we will say goodbye to 2010.I started the year with rejuvenated hope. Is the hope still with me? , I doubt it. That is life, testing your hope and faith by all means. If I have to traverse through the months of 2010 once again, I would be fearful to encounter certain moments and would wish to time-freeze certain moments.

I am grateful for 2010 for one lesson it taught me. It taught me what is important and what matters most in life. If you ask me what it is…it is actually NOTHING. To live in the moment and to breathe consciously every time is important.Anything we gain or lose in between two breaths holds zero value.Being alive to take the next breath holds an intangible value.A very well-known tenet of life,but is forgotten when we rejoice over the victory of our ego and when we cry for having an imperfect life.
A brutal fact that I was forced to remember in the month of September 2010 when 2 of my beloved family members simply disappeared in air. For coming years, the exact date, the time and the events would remind me the lesson – to simply let go of emotions and things that do not hold any significance in a larger picture.

Again, I am starting 2011 with new renewed hope and sure life will test me again and I will fall, have bruises but again I will be born with new light and new lesson to embark a whole new journey from within…

To all my lovely readers – My wishes and May peace stay with you forever. What is your lesson…Would you like to share?

The obligated resolutions ,yes I am taking one this year too – will not “chat” in cellphone while driving.No blue-tooth,no hands -free nothing.

Movie Talk:Guzaarish

Posted in Experience by justaroundme on November 27, 2010

I watched Guzaarish.I read online that the movie is not doing good at the box-office.It is expected,I think.This movie is for selected audience, who have a thirst for an entertaining movie with decent story, good acting, soothing music but no item- numbers, unrealistic stunts or any cheesy jokes.

I thought Hrithik Roshan and Aishwarya Rai pair had a good chemistry in the movie Jodha Akbar and in Guzaarish too they make a good on-screen pair but Hrithik simply dominates.He dances with a feminine grace and that is beautiful to watch.Aishwarya Rai’s acting is good because it is subtle.Personally, I can take her overdone makeup but not her exaggerated acting.

I don’t want to reveal or write a review about the movie but to be precise it is clean, heart-warming, funny and touching.The screenplay and the dialogues does not overwhelm the viewer with tight over-sentimental or over-dramatic scenes in spite of the very sensitive storyline.Instead it is more about the endurance, positive energy and lighter side of the character played by Hrithik.

Is the movie running in your nearby theaters ?.Don’t have any second thoughts, go watch and just allow Ethan Mascarenhas to show his magic and mesmerize you.

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Into the wild…

Posted in Experience, Personal by justaroundme on November 18, 2010

Have you seen this insurance ad.The kid asked to ride her bicycle in a space barely bigger than her cycle.It is funny.

How much space do we get in our life.At times, I do feel that I am duped like that little girl.I look bewildered in need of more space and more movement.The soul within us begs to set it free.It wants to wander across mountains,deep oceans.It wants to travel like a gypsy beyond the geographical boundaries to get the feel of freedom.It weeps silently wanting to follow its passion without any fear of the future.Sometimes, it simply wants to stop right there and be idle.It doesn’t want to move any forward.Other times,it pleads to voice strong opinions.

But in reality,we can function only within the confined space of our family, our culture, the country we make it as our “home”, the laws (the immigration rules for immigrants !), our relationships, our abilities, our knowledge,our religion, our commitments.

These invisible strings make people to stay in jobs that they don’t like, tolerate unhealthy relationships,endure lonely turbulence within but simply carry on for the sake of the outside world.Oh poor soul, how do I set you free with no physical dimensions and boundaries.

Am I making sense.NO?.Never mind !!…

Hey do catch this ad.The boy looks cute,ha his face expression is priceless!!!

And have you watched the movie …”Into the wild”…if not,please please do.It is deep, intense and serious but quite an experience.

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